April 7, 2023

Ep. 75 | Q&A: Rites of Passage, Education, and Goals

Nathan answers: [0:50] “When do you feel like you became a man?” [13:10] “What would be your ideal scenario for church community educating their children?” [34:00] “What are your goals for the next year?” & “Have you set up your daily…
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Ep. 75 | Q&A: Rites of Passage, Education, and Goals

Nathan answers:

[0:50] “When do you feel like you became a man?”

[13:10] “What would be your ideal scenario for church community educating their children?”

[34:00] “What are your goals for the next year?” & “Have you set up your daily environment or routines to get the most out of life and achieve those goals?”

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The recording.

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Yes. Okay.

We, uh, Have a really busy week, not a lot of time to write, outline and prepare a full episode. So we went to the trusted Instagram.

For some input, got a couple questions back. A couple, maybe we won’t deal with later, but a couple of we’re going to deal with now, but you have control over that. I actually don’t have control over that. So. I’m going to try to get the spicy fiery return, maybe. Get us canceled. Right before Easter, but we don’t feel, we don’t fear the grave.

So we are dangerous men. I think it’s up to you. If you want to say something, it’s cancel worthy, but we’ll start with the first question, which is for you. At what point did you feel like you became a man and were no longer a boy? Did you have a defining moment?

I think it’s easy to say. Uh, ne initially got [00:01:00] wise, like when I went off to the army, because I. Basically had everything in my wife, in a duffel bag that they took away from me. And. Cut my hair and took over my life and told me everything I was going to do. And I was no longer. In my parents’ household anymore, but.

I think that. I did boy Scouts growing up and there was a lot of times where. We went off to camp and I even think back, like, it’s pretty crazy that my parents just like. Shipped me off to boy scout camp at. Age 12. You know, for a week at a time. Kind of thing, but I think that that happened. That I was in a culture.

Around boys that were 17, 18 years old. And so it happened. Kind of somewhere in there, there wasn’t a defining moment. Which we’ve talked about. One of my friends locally did a write a passage. I posted on Instagram for his 13 year old son. And he basically said, he’s leaving boy hood to adolescents, and there’s going to be a. [00:02:00]

Like another phase in their family, I guess, but. My son. Did 50 miles. Uh, over three days with me and other boys and trail life two years ago. And he was, had just turned 13. Um, Maybe we just know he’s 12. I think. And. That wasn’t really built up as like now you’re a man now, but it’s been something that for him.

I’ve referred back to and said,

Don’t even wind to me about taking the garbage out or how hard this task is. I, I know you can do 50 miles and then he just smiles about it now. ’cause he’s got he’s achieved it. So anyway. Do you think that’s something that. All men. Are continually, continually looking for. Validation and. Maybe.

Becoming the boys are looking for validation. I think. So when you’re a child, you look at [00:03:00] adults and say, oh, they have it all, figure it out. I’m the adult. I’ve got six kids. Yeah, I think. I have it all figured out. But there’s lots of things. I still have no idea what I’m doing. We’ve. I don’t know if I’ve talked about this on the podcast before, but that word validate.

The only person that validates you as the creator. And I think that everybody’s looking to be validated. Here now by people. And people are not the people. They don’t have the authority to validate you. You are called to be something by God. And that is the validation before the creator is validated. And the way I’ve heard about it talked about is like the U S treasury.

The. Treasury validates the note says this is a us treasury note or a bill, and it holds value. Now that we’re not going to get into that. Debate about that value, but that’s the agency and our government that says this is a dollar bill. [00:04:00] And then stores, when you go use that dollar bill, they don’t say, oh,

I don’t know if I want to take this or not. Because there’s a higher power in a sense that has the authority it’s validated. They’re only affirming. What has already been set by. This higher power and agency, that’s a very trumped down thing, but essentially most people in this day and age are going around looking for relationships to validate them. So that from a husband’s perspective,

And Michael Foster talked about that on the documentary. We looked at it you’re you’re. If the woman is the mission. And you’re looking to be validated by her. So she loves me. Therefore I am worth something. Because I have this. Human being with emotions with different times that they are going to be feeling good about you, not feeling good about you. So if your worth as a man, if your validation as a man is found in this woman, loving [00:05:00] you or this other person in the world, thinking you’re okay and loving you, you know, God’s love loves you.

So. In a sense, forget what everybody else says. If you are. Living your life, according to God. And that’s in a sense as a man. You can’t look around and say validating. If, if you’re living. Sinfully or not. Like that is obviously something that has to be addressed and relationship addresses that your wife can call you out about sin.

And she’s not validating you. That sounds kind of like I’ve heard it called finding your identity in Christ or finding your identity. Where’s that at? Yes. It’s the same thing. The validation ultimately is this a 40, the stamp that says. You know, so. Kind of ultimately for a Christian. Christ’s death.

And resurrection validates you. That’s where your worth and your identity is found. And the fact that you’re. Redeemed, his righteousness [00:06:00] is imputed to you and therefore. But then the flip side of that is this boldness. Now that needs to come with that. Okay. So. I am really redeemed. My identity really is in Christ. It’s not about whether or not all these people like me or not. Don’t.

So therefore I can now be obedient and I can live boldly and I can do things that I’m supposed to be called to do, because I’m doing it in light of what. The creator thinks about my actions, not in light of all these relationships, but I do believe it is God’s perfect design that we have relationship that affirm.

What he already. Has said about us. And so it will always be a shadow. Or a reflection of what Christ’s love for us, your wife loving you. Can be a reflection or a shadow of Christ’s unconditional love for you. And that’s good and it’s helpful. But it can’t be the thing. [00:07:00]

We might be straying away from the question a bit. So to wrap it back around a little bit, there’s this question that’s always in. My mind of do I have what it takes and I think that’s why people. Hold special operations on a pedestal or on the military. Or high achievers, people that run ultra marathons. There’s that question of do I have what it takes and that’s why they want to do.

Hard things. And that’s something that doesn’t really ever seem to go away once you. You know, Squat three plates and you’re like, oh, can I squat four plates? Or once you do something. Once you run the marathon and you say, oh, could I run the 50 miler? Once you make. Six figures. It’s like, oh, can I grow this business to the next level?

Yeah, I think that that’s eternity in man’s heart. So that’s why. I remember reading an article about this when Felix Baumgardner, you know, set the freefall. Uh, altitude record when we took the balloon up into space and jumped, it’s like, [00:08:00] Why would somebody do that? And, and a lot of women would say that, but a lot of dudes aren’t saying that like, they’re like,

Can I beat that? Could I get a balloon and go up higher, you know? And. Uh, that is. The eternity in our hearts that God has wired into us. And I do think a lot of men. Our depressed. Or are insecure because they know they can do more and they’re not. And I’ve said this before. You lay down on the pillow at night, you can lie to your wife. You can lie to people in your, you know, but you know,

In your heart, what you’re capable of doing, and you’re not doing it. And so you’re upset. You want to blame all these situations. And I’ve talked about this before I got out the army and my business was. Was floundering and people were suing me and all of a sudden stuff. And I wanted to get in this blame game.

But ultimately I knew [00:09:00] things that I need to fix. And I wasn’t being honest about that. Jocko calls it ownership. Over it, but in a sense, A lot of guys have never done anything really that hard. And their entire life. And so that’s the right of passage and chain training into transitioning into manhood. And they talk about all these cultures that have these things that you put them through.

And, um, Michael Easter talks about it in comfort crisis about, uh, doing, uh, um, massage or. or whatever it’s called a yearly challenge and that you. Have you do it when there’s basically gotta be a 50, 50 chance that you’ve you. Can pass it or fail it. So it’s actually not, you don’t know if you can actually do it and you train for it and sometimes you fail. Sometimes you don’t.

And, and the goal is basically. 50 50. Chance of failure and don’t die. You know, so it’s like, you’re not doing it. So I was like, oh, if, if it’s the 50 failure, then I’m dead. But it’s like you fail and that’s, I think [00:10:00] most people. I want to control what the results are. Which we don’t get to as a human being.

We want to control what happens. What the end state of this is going to be. And so you set the conditions and you try to control every variable. When the reality is. That’s a terrible way to live and control the results. The actual fun way is Jordan Pearson has talked about telling the truth. Is really the way that you sign up for you don’t know what actually that’s going to be when you are committed to tell, always speaking the truth, or at least don’t tell a lie.

And to anything that comes out of your mouth being the truth. There’s a, there’s an unknown. Now, if I actually speak the truth from what I see. All the time and I never lie. There’s an unknown to what’s going to happen. Now, if I. I really actually commit to that. Uh, anxie say the same thing about, you know, starting a business, quitting my job. And for me, special operations is so many dudes.

At the beginning. That was really awesome [00:11:00] to say, I’m going to be an airborne ranger. I’m going to go do this selection. I’m going to go do these things. And when they got down to it and it hurt as bad as it did, they thought. I don’t really have to. Do this. And I am friends with people that. I don’t really need this and I can talk about how I got hurt.

You know, oh, I had this MAB. People that I know that are like, Oh, I had this. You know, ITB inflammation. During running. It’s like I had that the entire time I was in the army. Almost like excruciating pain in the legs and stuff. It’s like, oh yeah, it’s painful, but that’s just inflammation. That you can push through.

And it gets harder. It gets pain more and more painful, but this is only three weeks long. It was only a month long. Like get over it. And so when most, and then guys will literally. Play that soundtrack like, well, this is what happened, but they know the truth. They know they actually [00:12:00] quit mentally.

And they failed. And they live in it’s, but that’s also the reality of that’s God’s part of your story. And I’m, I’m excited that I get to look back. I failed a lot of things in the military. I got fired. I’ve had to do things over and over again. Not as many times as some special operations celebrities have, but.

You’re not, you don’t have to control the results. I didn’t quit. And I had a moment where I was like, Hmm, I’ll just get out. And go to school. Talk to you about that. And I was like, I will never know.

What the result would have been if I didn’t quit. And I didn’t, and I’m glad because I don’t have to look back on my life and think. Oh, I actually quit and I’m blaming something else. So. Maybe that was the moment truly. When I was like, I could quit. And I decided not to. So that would have been about age 23.

A moment. Yeah. So I think to wrap it up, what I got [00:13:00] is.

He becoming a man is recognizing. That. You’re made in the image of God and. It’s Christ that gives you that. Validation and everything else is just different points of affirmation along the way.

Okay, so the next question.

What would your ideal scenario be for a church community? Educating their children. I don’t know who had asked this question.

It wasn’t me. Uh, Yeah. So I think you, and I’ve talked about this a lot because there’s a. You know, Moscow talks about. You know, former church.

Then started school. And then start a. A publishing house or whatever, that’s kind of been their playbook. That was in how to save the world. Yes. So, and everybody can applaud that. But I personally. As the guy outside, I don’t know [00:14:00] what’s going on. I think. Predominantly. Christian education sucks.

And we, if you look at the salaries we pay our teachers. We look at, who’s actually educating our kids. Who’s educating our boys. And we talked about this, John Moody, and I talked about this. They’re getting. A Christianized, a version of school. With school, not education. So we call it Christian education, but it’s Christian schools.

So it’s the government model of schooling with a little Jesus sprinkled on top of it. And we call it Christian. And we talked about the Christians classical Christian school here, locally. That doesn’t, it’s just the public it’s. It’s definitely got Christians running it. It’s definitely got a lot of Christians involved in it, but if you went down the family list,

And said, who are, these are on fire for God and serving. And we talk about pulling the same cart, being hitched to the same wagon. We’re going the same direction. There’s [00:15:00] not alignment there. So I’d say ideally. Christian education looks like a lot smaller. Then these big classical Christian schools.

And it’s probably a group of families. I think it’s going to work at our church. Because. We’re going to have people. That’s C there’s a bunch of skilled men. That are doing. Trades and different businesses. And then when your son gets to a certain point, he can say, dad, I like what. Mr. Auto mechanic.

I want to go. He’s a Christian man. He’s an elder at our church. He knows this skill and he goes and works for him, the apprentice model. And I think that. Largely at 13, 14 years old. It’s just a start to tip a balance where they’re working more painful. Physical labor pushing through difficulty. That’s why I have my ten-year-old digging a 600 foot [00:16:00] ditch, 600 foot long ditch to put our well line in. You know, I haven’t been on him.

A little bit, but it’s like literally becoming a man is. It sucks and I’m going to keep doing it anyway. And putting those situations in front of them, this crawlspace sucks. Uh, I’m getting paid this right. I’m going to go in there. I’m going to do this job. This cleaning these gutters out sucks. Are they going to stitch sucks.

But I’m a man. I do hard things. I dig ditches. Um, I’m going to learn, maybe there’s a lesson to say I’m going to actually figure out how to save my money and buy a trencher. Or I’m going to leverage money, time, skill, software, automation, et cetera, to try to get a better yield. That’s fine, but that was, those lessons are built on the foundation of doing hard things and doing hard work. So I think that.

I think that we should have. For sure our boys should be less in the classroom for sure. What is it? What about the girls? [00:17:00] The girls. So the reason I liked my wife so much. I was because she was industrious. She, in a sense didn’t. Uh, she wasn’t my wife, but she was, she was schooling her youngest siblings. Cause my wife’s one of 11.

She had test scores to be like really good test scores, to be able to go to college. She could’ve gone full ride to any state school. She could have done all these things. She chose to stay at home and help her family with that stuff. But it wasn’t because she didn’t have other options. That’s the thing it’s like, I feel like a lot of homeschool girls.

Are that were raised by Christian families or are like, my only option is to find a man. But the entire time, what are you doing with your time? You’re not even trying to find a man a hundred percent of time, you know, and, and Brian, Solvay talked about it. Like bake a pie. Drop it off. This is the pros. I had extra proceeds in my kitchen. I’m producing something.

So I [00:18:00] knew. That I could give Jacqueline A. Little bit. And it would produce a lot. Michael Foster talks about that in his book too. It’s like, man gives a little bit and the woman gives a child back. To him. She, she magnifies that. So when I’m looking at my, why I looked at my wife and I looked at, I mean, all lot of homeschool moms from my hometown wanted me to marry their daughters. And I went off to the army and whatever.

Like it’s. And it’s. That’s like, not, it’s not even saying, I sound like I like, oh, every girl on that. But like the pool of homeschooling that I came from, there was a lot of girls, there was a lot of parents was 300 something families in our homeschool covering. So there’s. Plenty from my hometown. I could have married.

But I saw in my wife, she wasn’t in our hometown, but I saw somebody who was getting after it. And it is such a blessing to be trying to build these businesses, to be trying to grow this farm, to have these visions [00:19:00] for things. And. My wife isn’t like, just, can you just be home or can you just whatever, like she, yes, she wants me home and we have a rhythm, but she knows you got to go work. You got to go do things. She’s not clingy.

She’s not calling me up and saying, where do you, where, how do you fill the car up with gas again? Like she could figure it out and that’s, I’m there to help, but she’s getting after it. And I feel like we raise our girls. If we want to raise our girls, say, Hey, you are going to be a wife and mother.

That just means. Look pretty. And wait around. And if, if you actually were industrious and I, we have friends that, you know, Cutting hair. Buying rental properties like she comes with, if you’re, if your man hasn’t shown up right away, it’s like, oh, shoot. 19 years old now, what do we do? You know, you didn’t get a man, the man didn’t just drop out of the sky because he’s looking at you and he’s like, what in the heck are you going to do?

You know, so, and that’s [00:20:00] also includes physically taking care of yourself. We’ve talked about that. Like. You to talk about like, why. You need to be attractive. You need to be in shape. I got in trouble on Twitter. Cause I was like, after you. Cultivate godly virtue. You should do squats. And there’s all these all squats. It’s like number 20. It’s like, okay, fine, dude.

I would just generally saying she should be in shape. It’s not like, oh, as soon as I marry you, then you’re just going to be like, oh, I finally got that, man. Now I can eat these donuts, you know, like what the heck? I want to see a woman that cares for herself, that’s going to cause, cause we, it comes back to energy. We’re both producing, we’re working, we’re building our house. We’re building Christendom together.

And the second I put a ring on it, you’re going to blow up and get fat and not care about yourself anymore and not put yourself into things. And that’s a mindset about things and a desire to keep continuing and getting better. And, and ultimately our [00:21:00] pastor says it run towards Christ. Full speed. And if you look to the left or your right and you see, oh, there’s a girl running full speed towards the cross, you know, it’s kind of reductionistic a little bit, but it’s like, no, she’s actually.

Going towards something that’s outside of you. At a really fast pace and cultivating all this godliness. And now. We can get married and we can. It amplifies its. I mean, it literally is infinite possibilities now because God then takes that and multiplies it. So I think. Teaching our daughters like our, our homeschool education has a ton of reading.

A ton of, of. Good authors, old authors people that, uh, do a ton. Uh, have a ton of, there’s a lot of story of virtue of good and bad and quality literature. But then it’s skills. It’s tending the [00:22:00] home. It’s building things, it’s running your household and then understanding. My daughters might have rental properties. If the man’s not right there.

But at the same time, like we’re in a place where there’s just a ton of kids and there’s going to be a lot options. You know, so I just less time in the classroom though. Last time sitting down with 20 of you. Listening to an adult. That’s generally not that functional either. Like. It’s pretty sad to get paid.

Like the people that are getting paid $30,000 a year are in charge of our kids’ education. Like that’s the most value that you could get around? Like, Some of them are picking it. I think too, cause they care about, it’s not about money. Like my pastors is she doesn’t need to work. My pastor, we pay our pastor. Well, there’s no reason she needs to teach kindergarten. She literally teaches kindergarten. Cause she.

Loves and all my kids, except for the most recent one, just because the wave homeschooling worked out [00:23:00] we’re in her kindergarten class. And that was awesome. The pastor’s wife, pastor’s wife is teaching my kids how to read and write. And she’s not a slouch either. Like you’re not getting away with stuff, you know? So.

That worked out really well, but then we quickly, my wife said she was sad to drop the kids off, even though it’s only a three day a week school, she felt. Sad. Leading Lee, there was 24 hours. Or 20 hours a week that they weren’t at home and she wasn’t teaching them. And she was sad about that. And we, I was still in the military. I was still deploying. So we just like, all right, for this time.

We’re going to let our older two first grade and kindergarten. Our pastor’s wife and other mom at the church. But we’re not in there anymore. Because I’m taking the boys with me to the job site. Now we’re building the farm, whereas all kinds of stuff that, and we’re listening to business books with me and there’s this mindset, rich dad, poor dad mindset, to understand that.

There’s different levers that are available to you, that you [00:24:00] can work really hard. You can work really good. That’s is only going to take you so far. It’s okay to just work really hard and really good at one thing. If you want to have aptitude for other things, and those are the things. And I think it just should be dad’s teaching. I think.

Boys. It doesn’t have to be me. All right, you don’t want to go into construction. Do real estate have a farm, whatever. It’s a great life. I love it. But you like something else that another dad is going, how do you do that? Okay. Go work for him. And we got an intern coming on in may. 18 year old kid. They’ve known me for 10 years. Dad asked me, he asked me, can I come work for you? I think it’s going to be awesome. I know for a fact,

That. It’s going to change his perspective on life at eight. And I wish I could. Have been. I would wish I could have worked for me at 18. You know, I went and worked for congressional campaign. I went into the army, I worked for my dad’s business. But. There’s mindset stuff about. Compounding interest and money and passive income and active income and [00:25:00] investments and all these leveraged things that we’re even learning. Now it’s like if I could only have had this at age 16,

Holy crap. Cause it’s the sooner you invest the sooner, you know, and that’s ultimately that knowledge of. How do I do this? And our, I think our boys need to know. It’s like, you can start a business at age 14 or 15. And get all the learning you need to, and you’ll be able to read and write. You need to be able to understand there’s a lifelong learning.

But you do not have to sit in the classroom. That’s ridiculous. The topic. Topic of education encompasses so many. Areas and deals is good. And I think, uh, you know, um, think it’s Michael Saylor. Talked about how after you get. He talks about Bitcoin. He was like, people don’t even. Try to learn anything ever.

After age, like 40 he’s, like I spent a thousand hours researching this who has spent a [00:26:00] thousand hours. On anything. After age 30. And that’s the problem is most people get a crappy education Christian label slapped on it or not. And then go get a job and they hate it. And they just work that till they die and then they repeat it with their kids.

And that’s ridiculous. We were made for way more than that. And we have a V we can have a vision for something it’s just, you don’t know what the end result is going to be. It doesn’t necessarily mean lots of money. It doesn’t necessarily mean happiness. From what your work is, but you do have joy.

The whole time. And you’re also seeing God. Teach you. I mean, I sat down with a business coach today and he literally, I were talking through problems that we’re having struggles. We’re having with some clients and he’s like, God has literally. Brought this set of circumstances to you as the business owner to teach you something that you need to know now [00:27:00] for later, literally.

You’re in this situation because God is teaching you something. So to have that mindset to be like, God is teaching me right now, something I need to learn and know I need to grow. Is it dependence on him? Is it whatever? And he’s able to say, okay, and then have somebody that’s. Several months, you know, six, seven months now I’ve met with them every week, multiple times a week. And he’s like, I’m looking at this. And I think this may be what.

God’s teaching you to do right now, Nate. And it’d be like, oh, and that’s the cool thing about entrepreneurship is you’re just learning. You have to learn or you die, you have to grow or you die. You go broke. And so it just, all right, we’re gonna keep getting better and keep learning. And that’s what I want for my kids jumping in the deep end.

And. Don’t sink. You know, it seems like the best to educating tools are. The word. Of God. Life. Yup. So if you put off life until post-college with no risk, no. [00:28:00] Going out and doing anything. Then that’s a lot of time to lose. But. One of the answers to that might be, I guess what you’re saying is incorporating the apprenticeship model.

Yeah. Primarily and hopefully through fathers. Yeah, the boys. Moms and moms, I think it’s, uh, you know, you have a lot of young kids right now. Imagine if a 14 year old girl. Would come over. And just help. Cause and say, And at our church there’s girls. That are in the classroom. Instead say, no, you’re going to do, you’re going to wake up at six 30 in the morning.

You’re going to do a little bit of school. We’re going to do school till noon from noon. You’re going to go help this other lady at the church who has a bunch of little kids. And you’re going to see how she runs her household. And you’re going to come back over here and you’re going to do this, and you’re going to see women with joy.

Thriving producing, creating. You’re going to get to see different flavors of [00:29:00] how families are doing it. You’re going to start piecing together what it’s really like and actually producing and helping within the church. And becoming better and having these real life things that you helped with. And so I think that’s.

Back to where we talk about how do we get more involved in, and that’s how to discussion about, um, at county, before country with, with. Homeschool mom, that they have a large Mennonite. Community. Where they live. That send their kids to public school. But. After school’s over, they go and work with dad and uncles and stuff in the trades until like 7:00 PM. So they’re getting four hours and they’re working Saturdays and maybe Sundays. I don’t know how.

The thing, but they’re working. 25 30 hours a week with dad, uncles, whatever in the business. And there’s an economic model. So it’s like, you’re going to school, but then you’re getting plugged in. And so all your financial [00:30:00] wellbeing and your identity and your business and stuff in there, I’m not saying that that’s what we should be doing at all.

I think that, but they said that they’re not seeing. A bunch of them leave. Because there’s viability. In the family, businesses and units, and they’re learning that as a part of their education and that it’s not something they want to throw off. There’s financial security there there’s there’s networks available to them.

So anyway. All right. Last question has got two parts.

First one is what are your goals for the next year?

Yeah, my wife, a house built.

That’s the only goal I should probably have, and she might listen to this. So there’s no other calls until I get my wife out of the bus. Okay, follow up to that question. Have you set up your daily environment or routines to get the most out of life and achieve those goals? No. There’s a lot of progress that needs to be made.

One of them’s get you out of here right now.

It’s like get back to work. Think about. [00:31:00] Um, Atomic habits. Yeah. I tweeted, I just tweeted a. His routine by the sink, his newsletter. Um, that he sent out, uh, James clear thing is called 3, 2, 1. It comes out on Fridays. Uh, or weekly, it may be, cause it’s out, just came out today. So maybe he’d sent it out earlier or whatever, but he’s got three ideas.

Uh, from him. Uh, to quote two quotes. And then a question. And the, one of the things is, have you thought about who you want to be? Or the person you want to be, or what you think was awesome about you. Um, and then are you consuming? The things that that person would, or is, or is it taking you away from that? So like, I just, there’s very much.

About, and that’s why I bought. However many copies of atomic habits and stuck it out in our church library, you know, because we don’t. It’s. Our inputs. [00:32:00] The people we hang around the time that we allocate. And I, I asked the question when this week that, you know, if somebody watched you for a whole day,

What would, would they say that you are a producer or a consumer essentially, like. Would they say that you complain, would they say that you build and that’s. I’m looking at. Social media these days. And I’m just like how in the heck? Does everybody have this much time to pontificate? If they’re building anything, you know, it’s ridiculous.

Anyway. I think there’s a lot of improvement. That’s one of the things that we talked about this week, there are, it’s easy to say. This is super hard. It’s everybody else’s fault. Why the heck? I don’t deserve this. I’m smarter than this. I should. I deserve better. No, you don’t.

If you did. Then it would be different. And then just that reality that God has, literally, if you’re in his will, if you’re seeking him, if you’re being obedient, what is right in [00:33:00] front of you right now is for your good. And for your good doesn’t mean. For your massive stacks in your bank account

For your good could equal purifying you sanctifying, you stripping away sin, driving you towards something. And that’s good. And so a difficult client, client nitpicking you over little things here and there. And as like, as opportunity for leadership, there’s a lot of opportunity for me to clarify opportunity for me to grow for me, to identify things that I’ve done wrong, things that I’ve done and let’s go.

Let’s set an asthma and let’s, let’s hit the mark. Let’s get, get on target. And so, anyway, I mean, it’s a blessing to have control over, you know, I rented this office, I own all the time. These are the clients that I. Picked I accepted, I sent them a proposal. I didn’t have to take the job. And so these are my clients. This is my, my company. This is my family, my church, my community.

I have have [00:34:00] a vote. I have options I’m in control and the difficulty, the toil. I mean, we pulled up Ecclesiastes these the other day, rejoice in your toil. And there’s joy regardless. So anyway,

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